The Uber Pregnancy- An Urban Myth
Now that all of the fan fare about Mother’s Day has passed, I thought I would talk about what pregnant moms really need for pregnancy support.
Having been involved with pregnant moms since 1979, I believe that there has never been a more challenging time to be pregnant than now. I really feel for pregnant mamas. Being pregnant these days lands a pregnant mom within a minefield of polarization. Good and bad, right and wrong, black and white; whatever happened to the gray areas? The overriding cultural pressure that all women feel to be perfect, cascades and becomes amplified by the hormones and expectations of pregnancy.
No longer is it enough to make a good choice- it has to be the Perfect Uber choice! And there are so many options from which to chose!
The challenge of striving for perfection during pregnancy, is that it negates the ability for a mom or dad to dive into their gut authentic intuitive mama/papa bear knowing self. Instead decisions are made from the default of logic, fear, should’s and ought’s.
Ironically, striving for that Uber pregnancy, strips a pregnant mama or papa of their distinctive signature self. Or as we have come to name it our individual brand!
So many pregnant moms are so relieved when I share with them what they are experiencing is normal. Most especially when their experience is not what is projected as the ultimate ideal.
Such as:
Feeling ambivalent about being pregnant- normal and not uber;
Feeling anxious or stressed about how you are going to do it all- normal not uber;
Feeling afraid that you will not be able to have your ideal birth- that you will fail at giving birth- again normal and not uber.
Your normal is uniquely yours. There is such a range of how a perfectly normal pregnancy expresses it self. Adhering to a vision of what a certain perfect ideal – limits you of your individuality, specialness, and ultimately your joy.
An Uber Pregnnacy, by presenting an unobtainable ideal, may limit your curiosity and energy. It may limit your ability to explore, connect and understand how this new amazing baby joining our world needs you to uniquely parent him/her.
What I love most about the work I share as a Birth Intuitive TM Counselor, is how it empowers a parent to connect with and create an authentic relationship with their spirit baby by including day to day decisions. I love supporting moms and dads in understanding, trusting, playing and growing their connection with their unborn baby.
Regardless if you are trying to get pregnant or are already pregnant; learning how to connect with, listen to, and negotiate with, the baby spirit who is joining your family, creates a concrete foundation of trust and connection. Trust is the antidote to fear and self doubting.
This process of connecting with your spirit baby assists you with deeply knowing what this baby needs. Weighing in with this new family member really does help to mitigate the doubts, should haves, could haves and guilt. In addition, when it comes time to interact with your health care provider you are making your choices out of this deep knowing and connection between you and your baby.
I believe that it is really important to educate and support pregnant and new moms and dads as they navigate the ever growing menu of pregnancy options and opportunities. Ultimately, as they follow their gut – their mama/papa bear wisdom, they will create their optimal pregnancy, birth and family.
To read Teresa’s previously published Mama Papa Bear Wisdom Article click here.
Teresa loves to support pregnant moms and dads to connect with their spirit baby.
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AVAILABLE for PURCHASE
- Birth IntuitiveTM Making the Connection WEEKLY PREGNANCY MEDITATIONS Short Morning and Evening meditations for daily use
- Before You Start Trying: How to Prepare Your Mind, Body and Spirit for Pregnancy (Intro & Parts 1 & 2)
- Miscarriage: It’s is Not Just Bad Luck
What is on Teresa’s Book Stand?
Moody Bitches: The Truth About the Drugs You’re Taking, The Sleep You’re Missing, The Sex You’re Not Having, and What’s Really Making You Feel Crazy by Dr Julie Holland
I love, love, love this book. If you are interested in understanding your hormonal dances of pleasure, depression, fertility- of being a woman, then this book is for you.
A Favorite Blog
Kelly Brogan MD is a psychiatrist who no longer treats her female clients using drugs. Instead incorporating a functional medicine approach she guides her clients back to wholeness and health. Her blog is always intelligent and wise. http://kellybroganmd.com
Non Toxic Solutions
It is essential to understand what we use for health and beauty aids contributes to our health and well being. Safe cosmetics.org is wonderful resource. www.safecosmetics.org
If you are feeling like a great DIY project for the summer, here is a great recipe for home made sunscreen
http://www.mommypotamus.com/how-to-make-non-toxic-homemade-sunscreen/
